The Stress Busting Secret.

Stress. We all know it and it certainly doesn’t discriminate.

Whether its financial, romantic or health-based, life can leave you feeling overwhelmed and stretched to a point that your mental health suffers.

A big part of stress is that we are worried about the outcome, in a way, it’s that fear of rejection coming at us in another form, a bit like a masked villain that you know all too well. Unfortunately, this isn’t a case for the mystery machine, it’s something that you can only solve solo.

I’ve spent pretty much my whole life worrying about the world around me but not enough time to worry about the most important thing, myself. In truth, I do have anxiety and pretty chronic at that, so worrying is second nature to me but it doesn’t mean that those without anxiety are immune to stress.

Now, I don’t think stress is something that anyone can really cure or solve permanently. I’d be shocked and in disbelief, if I ever met one person who made it to 80 without a care in the world, even then I would ask if they have actually spent the last 80 years living. Stress goes hand in hand with learning and growing, it’s part of the fun experience that we call life, it’s a contract signed at birth with no take-backsies.

So how do we possibly let go of the inevitable? How do we prevent stress from coming knocking and protect our mental health? We can’t.

As morbid as this all seems, it doesn’t need to put a damper on your day. I’m here to tell you that there is a simple step you can take to lower stress and all you need, you already have. It’s literally just yourself.

Think about the stress in your life and put it into perspective. That’s all you need to do.

And ok, so there is more to it but there is no point in overcomplicating everything. The point is that many of our problems now, will not matter in a month, or a year, or a decade. Your worries now can be solved and if not, then that doesn’t need to mean that you suffer.

Take the past, for example, a lot of stress comes from our mistakes and things that we can’t fix. The thing here to remember is the past is exactly that, the past. There is nothing you can do to change it but rather than let that define you, you can learn to make changes and grow from said mistake. No need to add salt to the wound, just patch it up and let it heal.

When it comes to relationships, even people that are upsetting you or making your life hell. These people are projecting, what they are saying and doing to you says more about them than it does you. Do not take it personally, either walk away or give them the ear that they so desperately need to hear them out.

We complicate life so often and we are always searching for acceptance in this world. Yet the only acceptance we need is of ourselves. Life is short and hard as it is, so we don’t need to make it harder for ourselves. Give yourself lots of respect and love and life will become less explosive, I promise.